What do you say?

The other day, a girl on the playground told my daughter that she is fat. They are in 2nd grade. Now, there is a lot more to the story than just this. This girl was, the last two years, top in her class as far as scholastics go. This year, they regrouped all the classes according to their learning curves and this is the first year that the two are in the same class. Needless to say this girl feels threatened by Addison in the classroom and is looking for ways to make herself feel better about herself. I know all this. To me, an almost 30 year old, it's simple. You just walk away and know that you are the better person. But, how do I teach this to my daughter? Granted, we did talk about it and I told her that she doesn't have to be friends with this type of person and that if the girl keeps it up, she needs to walk away like she can't hear her and go tell an adult. And it seems as though she has moved on from it. I say it seems because I don't want to keep bringing up the painful subject, so I just watch her actions, etc. for any signs of stress. But.... as easy as it seems it has been for her to get over it, I can't stop thinking about it. I think about how cruel kids are and I worry that someone is saying something to her and I am not there to comfort her. She is definitely growing up, and the "real parenting" is starting. Meaning, the hard crap. And I am sure it goes without saying that I am not saying taking care of babies is easy. But the fact is that this is so hard because, well, it fricken hurts. BAD. Hurting feelings is a terrible thing. And trying to teach your child how to deal with it isn't an easy task.